When Your Life Is Falling Apart

As our journey continues, it's nice to have reminders for those days when LIFE has some bumps and wiggles.

WHEN YOUR LIFE IS FALLING APART…
By Michael Mirdad

The stages of soul transformation are like a death and re-birth. This process is an elaboration on the experience commonly referred to as “The Dark Night of the Soul.” To complete this natural process with any amount of commitment results in a soul transformation that we often call being “born again.” This process is meant to cleanse your soul of illusions and unhealthy attachments, which awakens you to greater realities and to the truth of who you are. Although this process is mostly aimed at your heart and soul, it usually is most noticeable in either your body (and material life), your emotions (and relationships), and/or your mind (and attitudes).

There are five stages within the soul transformation process. They are as follows:

1. Dismantling: Here the process begins. This stage is active in your life whenever your experiencing a shift wherein part or all of your life is changing—perhaps even being taken away.
2. Emptiness: Now that the illusions you held about your life have been exposed and have begun to be dismantled, you’ll feel empty and depressed because of the time, effort, and (what you thought was) love you’ve invested in that illusion. This stage is like a psychological “hang-over” after being drunk on deceptions from self and others.
3. Disorientation: Needless to say, since the life you thought you had was intact and it clearly wasn’t, you will now be in a state of disorientation and doubt everything, including your abilities to do anything right or to make good decisions.
4. Re-building: Now that you seem to have lost something (or maybe everything), you may have learned how to trust & surrender. In so doing, you are probably open to new ideas and inspirations, leading you to the potential of creating a new life.
5. A New Life: This is the stage wherein you reap the obvious fruits of the healing, patience, and humility that you’ve developed. Here you are not made small but great, as you now have released your former identity as a human being with human achievements and see you are far more. Now, having set aside your humanness, you can take your divinity to a whole new level.

There are many reasons the soul has for activating the soul’s transformation process, but generally speaking, it’s the soul’s way of expressing tough love; a way of getting a message across that you are otherwise ignoring. Again, this message is usually around the need to move to a new level of consciousness, but you are being held back by either some lesson you believe you need to learn or healing that is yet incomplete. Nearly all processes of learning and healing that the heart creates and/or experiences result in the opportunity to understand and experience greater levels of unconditional love. So, in the end, it’s all about love.

Besides having many reasons to initiate this process, the soul also has numerous means of making the process manifest. For some people it comes in the form of a health crisis or accident; for others it might come as a death or other form of loss, such as a job; and still others might begin the soul transformation process through a relationship crisis or the entrance into your life of a man or woman who symbolizes your need to wake up to old wounds or perhaps to new possibilities.

So what should you do when the soul transformation process enters your life?
1. Prepare in advance. Living a well balanced life will cause major shifts to occur less often and less dramatically.
2. When it strikes, do what you can to relax into the process and not deny, minimize, or blame. Also observe the natural stages of soul transformation—as outlined in this material. Do your best to work through each stage/phase.
3. Cultivate supportive friends who will NOT distract you but will instead support your process. Let them know you don’t need them to “fix” you nor to tell you that their life is even worse. You just want them to listen and be supportive.
4. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Give yourself credit for each moment of courage and each new insight.
5. Once it blows over, don’t get too cocky, as it can swing back around and humble you. Also, during this phase, it’s wise to listen and observe for either residual stuff that still needs to be processed or new inspirations that begin to appear, offering hints of some new direction.